Help for Women

Help, Hope, and Healing for Partners of Sex Addicts & Sexual Compulsivity

The Shame

The first reaction upon discovery of a spouse’s sexual betrayal is usually “I can’t believe this is happening to me!”. Then the emotions of shock, shame, despair, anger, fear, and hopelessness come crashing in.

   Who can I talk to?

   What if someone finds out?

   What does this say about me?

   Who can I trust?

   God, how could you let this happen?

You may also have felt for some time, that something was wrong in your marriage, but couldn’t define the problem. At least now you know you aren’t crazy!

Hope for the Betrayed

There is hope, there is help, and you can heal from this injury. It will take time, but with a safe place of support, compassionate understanding, and an accurate knowledge of the issues of sexual addiction you can find your way out of this nightmare.

You did not cause this! In 9 out of 10 cases, this problem began to take root before you were even in the picture.

You are not alone! Thousands upon thousands, yes, even in the Christian community, face this hard reality. Statistics tell us, over 60% of Christian men struggle with sexual sin, and experts suggest one in three are already addicted.

You can become whole again! Healing is possible with or without your spouse pursuing their personal recovery. You can seek help and recovery for yourself, the 1st step is recognizing you are totally powerless over your partner’s choices and addiction. You can begin today, to change yourself. You need healing as much as the addict.

This is your 1st step to a new beginning, where recovery (healing) becomes reality . . .
Call Dayspring @ 503.244.4350 today

What is Co-Addiction. . .

Someone who is married to, or in a significant relationship with an addict (in this case a Sexual Addict). Co-addict simply describes the nature of the relationship.

The primary studies which bring us the most credible information on the issue of co-addiction comes out of the work done in the field of alcoholism. The professional community initially believed that the alcoholic was the only source of chaos and addictive behaviors. However, a closer study revealed that the spouse of an addict was also dealing with destructive behaviors and personal issues.

This acknowledgment is in no way meant to suggest that the co-addict is responsible for the partner’s behavior. The addict is 100% responsible for their own choices, behaviors, and the consequences. Each individual is responsible for running from sexual sin and maintaining sexual integrity!!!

As a spouse, however, we are responsible for our own issues, behaviors and choices. Whether, we enable by making excuses, ignoring or covering up the destructive behaviors of our partner; or we resort to our own methods of medicating. . . we alone are responsible for our
choices. Though we are powerless to change another human being, we can be empowered to change ourselves in any situation.

Common characteristics of the co-addict or codependent are:

The Recovery Process for Partners of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity

Face the Truth

Break the Silence

Understand the Problem

Deal with the Anger, Shame, Depression

Grieve the Losses

Explore and grow through your own issues. . .
   Abuses
   Self Esteem
   Boundaries
   Codependency
   Forgiveness
   Re-establish your relationship lines

If the offender accepts responsibility and works toward repentance and change, restoration
can be possible, with mutual agreement. A change in one spouse (only) will not improve the
chances of a healed relationship. In fact it will undermine the quality of the relationship.
When each spouse makes a serious commitment to correct (in self) all that God asks of
them, He will honor the work with redeeming what has been lost and broken.

No matter how desolate or hopeless your marriage seems, there is always hope,
Take your 1st step today.

Call Dayspring @ 503.244.4350 . . . where recovery becomes reality.

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